We are often and quick enough to shift blames on other people, family, friends, partners, government etc. When we experience some awful situations, we get to judge people for it, we accuse people when we encounter some unsuccessful ordeal in life. We blame people for our misfortunes, worries and even bother them with our own guilt. We always feel someone is responsible when things don’t go well with us.
It’s very common for people to “cast stones” and blame others for the problems in their life – a possible defense mechanism people use to cope with problems. And why wouldn’t we want to find fault, especially if the fault is no fault of your own, but someone else’s. It’s easy to go around blaming others when things go wrong and in many cases, it really is someone else’s fault. But the problem is that blaming others will never help us move forward.
The truth of the matter is while blaming others may make us feel better about ourselves; in the long run we become dis-empowered, and it prevents us from living our full potential. Further if we never look within for the solutions to our problems, how can we learn from our mistakes? Blaming someone else all the time can also make you a negative person, constantly asking why bad things always happen to you, rather than allowing you the chance to make your life better.
In Genesis 3 : 12 – 13 … “The man said, the woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat … The woman said, the serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.” Adam blamed Eve for making him eat of the fruits of the tree; Eve blamed the serpent for tempting her. So who was the serpent going to blame? God, for creating the serpent in the garden or the devil who entered the serpent?
Blame is the cheap curtain that we pull over the window to our soul so that we don’t have to see our own brokenness. We must pull back the curtain before we can ever begin to the process of mending our lives. As you pull back the curtain today and look beyond the surface in your own life, what do you see? Are you broken? Are there areas of your life that have fallen into disrepair because you’ve put the blame and responsibility on someone else.
Life, circumstances, and people will wound you. It’s inevitable. It has happened in the past, and if you live long enough it will happen again in the future. It’s life. Accepting responsibility to repair that brokenness doesn’t always mean that you accept the blame for causing every problem, it just means that you understand that you’re the one who is tasked with fixing them.
Recast responsibility as a way to learn from your mistakes as well as those of others. Accept your fallibility as a route toward self-improvement. Try to make things better, but rest content that you live in an imperfect world. Embrace this imperfect universe and the fallible beings in it, yourself and others —and stop blaming people for it.
Many times we blame others because we lack the ability to understand or forgive ourselves for our misfortunes. However, the only way to expand our way of thinking, we must face any challenge that may arise so that we have the knowledge and the experience that is required to emerge and move past it.
The person who blames others is usually in the week position and he tries to gain some power over the situation by blaming other people. If you want to stop blaming others then you should learn how to become in control of your life, how to be stronger and how to face different life problems. GRACE TO YOUR HEART.
*** PRAYER FOR THE DAY – Dear Father, I quit blaming shifting, I stop accusing people for what I have been through or what happens in my life and I am committed to taking responsibility for the outcome of a better life and glorious days ahead in Jesus Name, Amen.
*** CONFESSION OF THE DAY – I forgive complete and I move away from hurts and pains of the past, I am made whole by the active Word of God working effectively and mighty in me. I am healthy in my thoughts and wholesome in my reactions. Halleluyah!
***QUOTES OF THE DAY –
[On Love] – Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.
[On Life] – Success and failure. We think of them as opposites, but they’re really not. They’re companions — the hero and the sidekick.
[On Success/Business] – You can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.
- SCRIPTURAL REFERENCE – Psalms 51 : 1 – 19
- ONE YEAR BIBLE READING PLAN : Morning – Mark 16; Evening – Joshua 1, 2, 3
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